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Looking for Peace and Forgiveness.
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December 21, 2011
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Hello

 

I thought i would say hi and give a litle back ground of myself.

 

I have been suffering from Anxiety on and off for the last seven years or so and i am currently going through a tough time with it.  This is usually a fear of death i have but recently i made a mistake which i am stuggeling to forgive myself for that is giving me great anxiety. 

 

I have a very fortunate life and i have been blessed wiht a loving family and a great career so in all aspects of my life i am very lucky however i yearn like to get through these issues of mine that pop up for no apparent reason so i can enjoy my fotunate life to the fullest.

 

I am half way through the third sesson and while i did not feel any cool breezes it was probably due to my nervousness and being unfamilar with the process.  Saying this i do experience a sense of calm after each of the guided meditations but this is short lived when my anxiety kicks back in.

I hope this course helps me find the peace i need back in my life, fingers crossed.

 

Stuart

December 22, 2011
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Dear Stuart,

Thank you for taking the time to write, it’s nice to meet you! smile

Anxiety most of the time is caused by some imbalances in the energy center at the level of the heart. As you continue meditating regularly, this energy center will be gradually balanced out, and replenished with the help of your Kundalini energy, and while the anxiety attacks might not disappear right away, you will develop better ways of deal with them, both by noticing the signs ahead of time and correcting the imbalance before it hits you, and also by reducing the effects when it is happening. You will learn more about this energy center in class 6, and the breathing technique introduced there might be very helpful for you in particular.

Also with time the effects of meditation will last much longer, especially when your attention becomes more solid, so you will see that if you have a really good meditation in the morning, it can usually carry you quite well through at least half the day, and then you can help yourself to get back into it a little through the lunch break, which should then be good enough till you get home.

You might want to consider trying out footsoak, it’s a very simple but at the same time extremely effective clearing technique: http://www.onlinemeditation.or…..soaking-1/

We introduce this technique in class 5, but you might find it useful to do right now, especially if you have a stressful job, it might be a good thing to when you come back home.

Enjoy the course and please don’t hesitate to write if you have any questions or comments, or want to share your experiences…

Sincerely,

Mar’yana

 

December 22, 2011
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Thankyou for your reply.

 

 

December 22, 2011
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You are most welcome smile

Mar’yana

December 23, 2011
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Hello Again

 

I have completed the foot bat/soakh and have felt exceptionally calm for the last 8 hrs, I am quite amazed.

 

I have a couple of questions though.

 

On the site i found two places that descirbe how to perfrom the foot bath/soak, could i ask what is the correct procedure. The two i found was one noted on the forum or would it be the procedure noted in the Meditation at Home Booklet? 

December 23, 2011
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Dear Stuart,

Yes, the footsoak is amazing, it manages to absorb a lot of imbalances from our system in such a short time. That’s why we all do it a least once a day – it’s like giving a shower to your subtle system, getting rid of all the imbalances we are exposed to and pick up through the day and more.

As to which procedure is correct – they are both correct, you can try them both and see what works better for you. The principle of the footsoak is to meditate with your feet in salty water, in order to help your Kundalini to clear out and balace your system more efficiently by using the powers of the elements (water and earth in this case), and to do it regularly (at least once a day). All other details can be used or not based on what makes sense and what is practical in any given situation, and at different times we might find different versions working better for us. For example, I usually dump the water right after rinsing my feet and then come back and meditate some more (so the mix of the two versions you have seen). I usually raise Kundalini and do bandhan before and after each meditation, so I do not raise it again right after putting my feet into the water, but maybe I’ll try it out and see what happens. I usually footsoak with open eyes, but sometimes I feel more distracted that way, so then I close my eyes. In summer you can also do footsoak in a sea, a lake, or a river, and it works great too.

So what I’m trying to say, is that Sahaja yoga is a very natural, practical and adjustable set of techniques, and as long as the main principles are followed, the minor details can vary, and some might work better than others depending on the circumstances. With time, as you meditate regularly, your intuition will become stronger too and you will feel more clearly what you need to do and how at that particular time.

Enjoy your discovery journey – it is fascinating smile

Looking forward to hearing from you again,

Mar’yana

December 23, 2011
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Hello

 

Thank you again.

 

The meditation and course so far has started some profound changes in my awareness and i am starting to get some much needed clarity in my mind. 

 

Thank you so much for this site and the information you provide.  I am very much looking forward to the remainder of the course. 

 

If you are intertesed in my progress i am more than happy to keep you posted however i don’t wish to be annoying.

 

Stuart.

 

 

 

 

December 25, 2011
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Dear Stuart,

It’s always great to hear how people are doing, so please don’t be shy. Learning this meditation and growing in this experience depends a lot on little things – a suggestion, a piece of advice here and there from someone who’s been doing this for a little while longer, and can suggest to you how you can adjust things so that they work better for you, what things to try out, and how to go about overcoming the onstacles that will come up sooner or later. And this being the online course, unfortunately means that this will only have a chance to happen if you speak up :). So please keep in touch :).

Mar’yana

 

December 26, 2011
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Mar’yana

 

Thank you for your kindness.

 

After reading many of your reply’s to others questions (and mine) your thoughtful kind nature is a gift to us all in search of answers to our concerns, thank you again.

 

Stuart

December 26, 2011
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Dear Stuart,

You are too nice :)

Thank you! 

Mar’yana

January 3, 2012
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Hello Again

 

I have a quick question if you can help. My progress seems to be quite slow with this course and i am not sure i am getting the full benefits of each lesson before i progress onto the next. I am up to lesson 6 and i generally practice each guided meditation 3 to 4 times before progressig to the next lesson.

 

To date i have not experienced any cool breezes etc from the Kundalini but have reached what i believe to be thoughtless meditation for moments in my meditation. 

 

I am not sure if I should continue through the course or do i continue to practice each lesson until i feel results?  I have no doubt i have many obstructions with my chakras because of my anxiety which is very disruptive in my life at the moment.

 

I have been foot soaking nearly everyday which i find has some results but my progress is slow.  The videos make it sound so easy but that has not been my experience so far.  Is this normal or do i need to do something extra?

 

Thanks

Stuart

January 3, 2012
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Hello Stuart,

I think it is more important, especially in the beginning, to reach the thoughtless state, rather than to feel the cool breeze or other sensations from the kundalini. You say that you have been in thoughtless meditation – that’s great! Even if it just for a few moments. It means that the kundalini is working and has started to clear out obstructions on your chakras. The sensations may come later but it is not important to focus on this in the beginning. You can instead focus on the depth of your meditation to see how you are progressing. For example, each time you do a footsoak or go through a guided meditation, try to observe how your thoughts are, before and after. Hopefully you will notice that they will slow down or stop, and overall you feel more quiet and peaceful.

Also, be patient with yourself. The videos make it sound easy because they are made to be simple for a general audience to follow. However, one style will not necessarily suit everyone and for many people it may take more time. If it helps to repeat the same session, feel free to do so as many times as you feel necessary. However, don’t feel discouraged, or force yourself to listen again if it is not helping or if you are not in the right state. Take a break if you need to.

I know from close personal friends that anxiety can be very difficult to deal with, and it takes a lot of courage to work through it as you are. Continue to be persistent (regular with your meditations and footsoaks), and to take it at your own pace. It may take some time but you will definitely continue to see improvements. 

All the best,

-Sarah

January 3, 2012
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Dear Stuart,

I completely agree with Sarah, and just wanted to add two small things:

1) you might want to check out whether there are Sahaja yoga programs where you live, and if so, whether you could fit one of them into your schedule. It might work much better for you to meditate with other experienced sahaja yogis and to have some in-person contact, advice, etc… Of course, we will always try our best to help you out, but most of the time the effectiveness of in-person communication in these matters is much better than anything we can do online…

2) we always encourage everyone to feel out their own pace and speed of taking the course, but I have an impression that you are quite systematic and attentive to detail already, so my sugestion would be to go trough the whole course without getting stuck for too long on any particular class, and after you finish the first round, to go though it again in more detail, and adjusting to what you feel you might need more (or less). (During that second time you can also combine it with additional resources you will find at the end of the course.)

Just a quick question: how did you find the breathing technique with affirmations in class 6? Was it helpful, did it work for you? You could try doing this on your own for just a minute or two any time you start feeling a bit nervours, and combine it with asking your Kundalini to make your heart strong.

Wishing you lots of inspiration and patience with yourself,

Mar’yana

January 4, 2012
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Hello

 

Thankyou both for your prompt responses.

 

I do certainly feel better after my meditations so i am confident it is working but i wasnt sure if i should be progressing any quicker.  I am very thankful for the course and the peace it has given me so far.  I have managed to get through my bouts of anxiety before and i am very keen to get to the otherside of this episode i am experiencing so no doubt this is adding to my desire to get results quickly from the course.  I do however understand that these challenges in life take time to work through and i will come out the other end a better person for it ,but tomorrow would be nicewink

 

I am keen to get to a group meditation course as i think there would be some benefit to it.  I have located a contact locally it is just a matter of making the call. They ran a course late last year so i would imagine they will have another course in the new year.

 

Mar ‘yana i didnt seem to get much from session six but maybe my expectations were a little too high as i was really looking forward to it being a quick fix, yes hopeful thinking.  I think at with lesson 6 i was a little confused about the cool breeze and why i wasnt feeling it despite it seeming so simple in the instructions. Now I know this is not neccessarily the case i should be able to get more out of the session.  I think i will progress to lesson seven and come back to lesson 6 at a latter stage.

 

Thanks again, you guys are great.

 

Stuart

 

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January 6, 2012
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Dear Stuart,

About the cool breeze (and other sensation on palms, fingertips and above the head) – there is a lot of stress on those in the course, because once you start feeling them, a lot of things make much more sense. They are such a perfect diagnostic tool, that they can eliminate the huge portion of mental activity that normaly accompanies most things we do.

Having said that, we all have a different initial sensitivity to those, plus some obstructions and imbalances in our system might be making it difficult for us to feel those. Your anxiety might be one of the factorst that prevents you feeling them in the first place. With time though, as you meditate regularly and let yor Kundalini gradually balance your system and clear out the obstructions, you will at some point start feeling it. I know several people who did not feel any sensations for months, but they enjoyed the other effects of meditation, so they kept meditating, and at some point they started feeling the breeze too – now they can feel and decode it as well as anyone else. While others feel it from the very first day they try, and keep feeling it for a while even if they don’t meditate regularly. So it is all quite individual, please don’t let it discourage you – as long as you see positive influence in your life, keep the meditation going.

I was wondering about class 6, because I personally found the breathing technique in that class quite soothing for the heart chakra, and it is obstruction in the center heart chakra that normaly causes fears, anxiety and panic. But it might not have ben the right time for you, you might find it more useful if you come back to it after some time.

Let us know how things are going down the road :)

All the best,

Mar’yana

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